16/12/2023
CUFFED SEASON
A cuffing Season is when you're stuck and in love with people or things that don't love us back because we are lonely and desperate.
GOOD MORNING 🌞,
About a year ago, I was arrested for the very first time in my entire life. The worst part about is I was a 4months postpartum lactating mother.
I spent hours in held in police custody. I was not cuffed during the arrest but when I was brought to the station it all dawned on me. I was innocent of the charges and that made me angry 😡.
(Details of the arrest is a story for another Day )
However that didn't change the fact I was already behind bars.
My phone and car keys were consificated and I was not given the opportunity to make a call. (Typical of Kenyan police)
Soon it was already daylight and it started dawning on me how my nanny and my children could be worried about me as they didn't know my where about, my breasts were engorged with milk, (mothers know the pain and psychological torture that comes with it)
"🙀oooh no how is my infant coping without his mother, how did I even land myself in so much trouble as to get arrested?"
All I could do at this point was cry and silently pray to God get me out this and take back to my babies.
Anyway, later that afternoon, after insisting on my one phone call right, my sister came to my rescue and after parting with a substantial amount of extortion, I was released.
When I got home I was so happy to see my children then I reflected on how I would have avoided the situation if I was where I was supposed to be.
Instead, I had left my 4months old baby 🍼 and gone out to hang out with people who didn't even care about my wellbeing all night leading to the misunderstanding that took me to police custody.
'Often we are cuffed to someone or things we love and they don't usually love us back.' Judges 16-4
While I was having fun, I didn't at any point see anything wrong with what I was doing, I actually justified it with arrogance just because I thought I had in control, I had a nanny, my baby 🍼 had baby formula to drink and I had the money to do what I want.
It was when I got in trouble that I realised my irresponsible actions had consequences.
You can never pick right when in Pain. If you don't deal with your pain 😭 you'll remain cuffed to the same patterns that lead you away from your calling.
We are going through some pain probably from past traumatic experiences or pain from our childhood, marriages or school.
We are often inclined to think we are over the pain when in actual sense, untreated pain overtime affects more areas of your life.
This things or people that we are attached/cuffed control how we live our lives leading us to step out of God's parameters set to protect us.
Romans 12:2
[2] Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Like in the picture illustration, this people seem to have been cutting trees, and not replanting others now they need water to cool their engine but there's none in the environment they created. We often create toxic environments that become unbearable to us too and then we start lamenting to God asking, "why does God let us suffer?"
God created us with his will for us at heart, he set us out with parameters that will keep us safe from the enemy for our own good. Lakini Sisi ni nani? We have come up with our slogans "YOLO, LIFE IS SHORT, BORA NI ENJOY, HARIBU MWILI TUTAPEWA MPYA MBINGUNI..... name them...
The stories of Adam and Eve and Samson and Delilah are perfect examples of what happens when we step out of God's parameters, we are exposed to the enemy and the enemy does as he pleases with us including taking away our powers/talents and visions so we never see God's grace and we are left to struggle and grind so hard with no hope of ever rising again.
Judges 16:20-21
[20] Then she called, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!” He awoke from his sleep and thought, “I’ll go out as before and shake myself free.” But he did not know that the Lord had left him. [21] Then the Philistines seized him, gouged out his eyes and took him down to Gaza. Binding him with bronze shackles, they set him to grinding grain in the prison.
I pray that God will give us grace to see His love and perfect will for us and uncuff of from familiar patterns. In Jesus mighty name. Amen 🙏