16/09/2025
MEN,
Here is the point,
A step-dad will never be your FATHER,
That is why we call him a step-dad,
He is a dad.
A dad is NOT a FATHER.
FATHER means ABBA.
ABBA is an Aramaic word, which means the SOURCE, the PROGENITOR.
Mark 14:36
Romans 8:15
Galatians 4:6
No matter how much you endear yourself to your step-dad, he will never see you as his seed.
He only rescued your mother and not you.
You are not part of him.
You are not part of his DNA.
Therefore, it is only your FATHER who will give you a sense of identity and belonging.
He doesn't have to be alive. The knowledge of his home and grave is enough.
You don't have to ask him for anything. He will think your narcissistic mother has sent you to come-back.
Simply connect with him. This is important.
A man without a source of identity will always be conflicted and suffer from an identity crisis.
This suffering pours into his wife and children, thereby perpetuating the cycle of conflict and emptiness in the family.
Therefore, unless you connect with the source of your identity, you will always be consumed by the burden of living with denial.
Only MEN will understand why this is important.
Boys will continue whining and saying bad things about their fathers that they were told by their equally bitter mothers.
Unless you connect with the source of your fatherhood, you will never have peace in your life.
IGNORE your mother's bitterness towards your FATHER and connect with him.
It is about YOU, YOUR CHILDREN, and YOUR LEGACY.
It's Day 44 of my challenge with Abigail Ufot