06/02/2025
Anger Management is Essential
Avoiding conflicts doesn’t make you a fool; it makes you wise. Prevention is always better than cure. Not every situation requires you to prove a point. You don’t have to always show people that you can argue, shout, or fight. Sometimes, walking away is the best decision.
Recently, I witnessed a tragic incident that still sends shivers down my spine. I was on my way home when I overheard two women quarreling. Florence, a quiet and peaceful lady, was being confronted by Theressa—a woman known for her aggressive nature. Whenever there was trouble in the neighborhood, Theressa was usually at the center of it, always eager to prove a point.
That day, she was arguing with Florence over a minor issue, one that didn’t even concern her. I greeted them and walked past, but Florence, who had been trying to ignore her, eventually lost patience. She began exchanging words with Theressa. Despite people’s attempts to calm them down, the quarrel escalated. A large crowd gathered, but neither woman was willing to back down.
Eventually, Florence decided to walk away and return to her business. However, she kept responding to Theressa from a distance, while Theressa continued shouting at the top of her voice. Suddenly, as if in a dream, Theressa collapsed. At first, it seemed unreal—just another dramatic moment. But when she didn’t get up, people rushed to her side, splashing water on her and calling her name. She didn’t respond.
Florence, the very person she had been quarreling with, abandoned her business and ran to her, pleading with her to wake up. But it was too late. A vehicle was stopped, and they rushed Theressa to the hospital. Sadly, news came back that she had already passed away. In fact, she had died on the spot.
Florence was lucky she never laid a finger on Theressa before she collapsed. Otherwise, the story would have taken a different turn. We see situations like this every day.
Think Before You React
Not every situation requires you to prove yourself. It’s not every argument that you must win. Some people get into heated exchanges, believing they have the strength to fight or the vocabulary to argue, but have you checked your blood pressure lately? Do you monitor your health?
You might feel strong, but what if that one heated argument triggers something fatal? A minor quarrel, a little shouting, a slight push—before you know it, tragedy strikes. Are you sure the person you’re arguing with is in perfect health? What if something unexpected happens? Will you be able to escape the consequences?
Florence was fortunate that she didn’t physically engage Theressa. Otherwise, she could have been held responsible for her death. Many people in prison today wouldn’t be there if they had learned to control their anger.
Learn to Walk Away
Every day, we hear real-life stories like this. Sometimes, we dismiss them as fiction, but how can you tell what is real and what isn’t? Even if a story is fictional, there’s always a lesson to learn.
Start practicing anger management today. Learn when to walk away. Walking away doesn’t mean you are weak—it proves you are wise and self-controlled. As the saying goes, "He who fights and runs away lives to fight another day." But if you fight and lose your life, there’s no tomorrow.
Choose to avoid unnecessary conflicts. Choose peace. Protect yourself and your future.
Christ Love Crusaders Ministries
Loretta Ginikachi Memoh
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