06/18/2026
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.”
Ephesians 5:25
After 32 years of marriage, I learned something that cost me years of connection with my wife.
I thought being a good husband meant having all the answers.
I thought if she brought me a problem, my job was to fix it.
But here’s what I got wrong.
Most of the time, my wife wasn’t looking for a solution.
She was looking for me.
She wanted my attention.
My understanding.
My presence.
She wanted to know that what mattered to her mattered to me.
Men, when your wife talks, don’t immediately jump into problem solving mode.
Listen.
Ask questions.
Be curious.
Because sometimes the fastest way to fix a problem is to stop trying to fix it.
After 32 years of marriage, I’ve learned that people connect through understanding, not advice.
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