10/01/2026
The phone call usually starts innocently enough.
Someone is going through a divorce. They own a house together, and one of them plans to keep it. An appraisal is needed so they can begin figuring out the equity.
Then, somewhere during the conversation, comes the sentence:
**“I just want to make sure you don't come in too high.”**
It's understandable.
If you're keeping the house and buying out your spouse's interest, a lower value may mean less equity to account for. If you're the person leaving the house, suddenly that same number can look very different. You may be hoping the appraiser comes in higher.
Nobody has moved a wall. The kitchen hasn't changed. The lot is the same size it was yesterday. The roof didn't get ten years younger overnight.
**The house didn't change. The incentives did.**
That is one of the more interesting things about appraising property during a divorce.
Two people can look at exactly the same house, know it equally well, and have perfectly understandable reasons for hoping it is worth two different amounts.
The appraiser has to want neither one.
# # # $750,000 Looks Different Depending on Where You're Standing
Imagine a couple owns a home worth somewhere around $750,000.
They've lived there for fifteen years. They've raised children there, remodeled the kitchen, replaced the roof and spent more Saturday mornings than either of them wants to remember working in the yard.
Now they're separating.
One spouse wants to remain in the house. The other plans to move.
Suddenly the conversation about value isn't theoretical.
If the house is worth $700,000, one set of numbers follows. If it's worth $800,000, another does. There may be a mortgage, other assets, legal considerations and any number of things affecting how the eventual financial division is handled, but the value of the house has become one of the facts everyone needs to understand.
The spouse staying may look at the lower number and think, *That seems reasonable.*
The spouse leaving may look at exactly the same number and think, *They're giving my house away.*
Reverse who is keeping the house and those preferences might reverse too.
That doesn't necessarily make either person dishonest.
It makes them human.
# # # The Person Who Hires the Appraiser Doesn't Buy the Answer
This is probably one of the most important things I can explain about an independent appraisal.
Someone has to call us. Someone has to schedule the appointment. Someone usually meets us at the house. Someone pays the appraisal fee.
That person is our client, but the fee purchases our work.
**It doesn't purchase the answer.**
If one spouse hires me and says, “I need this to come in around $700,000,” that doesn't become an appraisal instruction.
Neither does, “The house across the street sold for $825,000, so don't come in below that.”
Both may lead to useful conversations.
I want to know what the homeowner knows. If there's a sale you believe is important, show it to me. If the kitchen was remodeled, tell me. If the roof is new, tell me. If the county record is wrong, let's figure that out.
Information is welcome.
A predetermined conclusion isn't.
The appraiser's job is to develop an independent opinion of value based on the property, the relevant market, comparable sales and the way buyers have responded to meaningful differences between properties.
Sometimes that answer will make the person who hired us happy.
Sometimes it won't.
That's part of the job.
# # # “But My Attorney Told Me I Need a High Appraisal”
Maybe.
Your attorney may have a legal strategy, and there may be perfectly legitimate reasons they want certain evidence developed. That's a conversation between you and your attorney.
But there's an important distinction between an attorney advocating for a client and an appraiser developing an opinion of value.
Those are different jobs.
An attorney is supposed to represent a client's legal interests. An independent appraiser isn't supposed to become another member of either side.
That can feel strange during divorce because almost everything else has acquired a possessive pronoun.
My attorney. Their attorney. My account. Their account. My retirement. Their retirement. My version of what happened. Their version.
Then someone hires an appraiser, and it's natural to think:
*My appraiser.*
Not quite.
You may be our client. You may be paying us. We may communicate with you and your attorney throughout the assignment.
But the value conclusion doesn't belong to your side.
# # # What If You Think the Appraiser Is Wrong?
Then say so.
Independence doesn't mean an appraiser is infallible.
We can miss information. Public records can be wrong. MLS information can be incomplete. A comparable sale may have circumstances that aren't obvious from the listing. We may not initially know about a renovation, an easement, a property characteristic or another sale that deserves consideration.
Homeowners often know things about their properties and neighborhoods that are genuinely useful.
Bring them forward.
The important distinction is between challenging the **analysis** and challenging the appraiser because you don't like the **number**.
“Did you know this comparable backs to the freeway?”
Useful.
“The house has 400 square feet that doesn't appear in the county record.”
Very useful.
“This sale had an accessory dwelling unit and ours doesn't.”
That may matter quite a bit.
“I need another $75,000 because otherwise I can't afford the buyout.”
That's not market evidence.
Neither is, “My spouse is getting enough already.”
Those may be extremely important issues in the divorce.
They just aren't characteristics of the real estate.
# # # Could You Agree on One Appraiser?
Sometimes.
And when the circumstances and legal advice allow it, this can be worth discussing.
A divorcing couple may disagree about almost everything and still agree on a process for answering one question:
**What is the house worth?**
If both parties and their attorneys are comfortable relying on one appropriately engaged independent appraiser, that can potentially avoid paying for two appraisals and then spending additional time and money arguing about why they differ.
But that isn't appropriate in every case.
There may be litigation strategy, evidentiary requirements, expert-witness considerations or other reasons each side needs its own valuation professional. Those are questions for the attorneys involved, not the appraiser.
The useful idea isn't that divorcing couples should always use one appraiser.
It's that they can sometimes agree on **how a fact will be established even when they don't agree on what they hope the fact will be.**
Sometimes that's enough.
# # # The Appraisal Doesn't Decide Who Gets What
Suppose the appraisal comes back at $775,000.
That number doesn't tell us who should keep the house.
It doesn't tell us how much one spouse is legally entitled to receive. It doesn't decide how improvements should be treated. It doesn't determine whether someone's financial contributions deserve additional consideration. It doesn't tell us whether keeping the house is a good financial decision.
Those questions may involve attorneys, accountants, financial advisers, lenders, mediators and, ultimately, the people going through the divorce.
Our lane is narrower.
What property are we valuing?
What type of value is required?
What is the relevant effective date?
What did the market evidence indicate as of that date?
Those questions sound almost boring compared with everything else happening around them.
Sometimes boring is useful.
# # # Because the House Already Has Enough Baggage
A house in a divorce carries things an appraiser can't measure.
One person may remember bringing a baby through the front door. The other may remember building the deck with their father.
Someone picked those kitchen cabinets. Somebody planted the tree in the backyard. There may be pencil marks inside a closet showing how tall the kids were every September.
And now the same house has become a line on a financial statement.
That's an uncomfortable transition.
One person may desperately want to keep it because losing the marriage already feels like losing enough.
The other may desperately want their equity out because keeping a financial connection to the house feels like keeping a connection to something they're trying to leave.
Neither of those feelings appears in a comparable-sales grid.
But they're standing in the room with us anyway.
Independence doesn't require pretending they aren't there.
It means understanding that they can't determine the value conclusion.
# # # Nobody Has to Win the Appraisal
Divorce naturally creates situations where one person wins a motion, receives an asset, prevails on an argument or gets something the other person wanted.
An appraisal doesn't have to work that way.
If the house is worth $775,000, the conclusion isn't supposed to mean the spouse who hoped for $800,000 lost and the spouse who hoped for $700,000 won.
It means the appraiser analyzed the property and the market and developed an opinion supported by the evidence available.
What happens with that information belongs to everyone else.
And maybe that's one small mercy in a process filled with sides.
For one question, nobody has to persuade the appraiser to join theirs.
The person who wants it high doesn't get to make it high.
The person who wants it low doesn't get to make it low.
**The house gets to be worth what the market supports.**