13/09/2024
Thank you Molly Perdue xx
Are you✨ familiar with the "Let Them" theory? I'll✨ tell my✨ friends, the more I✨ grow, the more I✨ am okay with accepting the "Let Them" in my own life and relationships.
This is something that took me✨ a very long time to learn. I✨ use to tolerate a lot because I✨ didn't want to lose people. But I✨ learned the hard way: if they were really my✨ people, they would never treat me✨ like that. Don't make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you✨ overlook the fact that you're✨ being repeatedly disrespected.
Let them be upset.
Let them judge you.✨
Let them misunderstand you.✨
Let them gossip about you.✨
Let them ignore you.✨
Let them be "right." ✨
Let them doubt you.✨
Let them not like you.✨
Let them not speak to you.✨
Let them run your✨ name into the ground.
Let them make you✨ out to be the villain.
Whatever it is that people want to say about you✨, let them!
Kindly step aside and LET THEM.
The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you✨. And they simply don't care. They did it knowing it could cause them to lose you✨. And they did it anyway. People who love you✨ care about how they make you feel. The end. Let them go.
There will be people who would rather lose you✨ than be honest about what they've done to you. Let them go.
The lack of respect was the closure. The lack of an apology was the closure. The lack of care was the closure. The lack of accountability was the closure. The lack of honesty was the closure. Let them go.
Make the decision to no longer sit at tables where you might be the topic when you✨ get up. Let them go.
You✨ can still be kind. You✨ can even still love them deeply. But do it from the distance they created with their words and actions. Access to you✨ is a privilege they have proven they can't be trusted with. Let them go.
You✨ don’t need to tell your side of the story. God already knows. Let God fight the battle for you✨. Let them go.
It’s taken me✨ a long time to get here. Sleepless nights, countless tears, managing a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion, and deep hurt. Lots of self-reflection, self-preservation, deep prayer, and seeking wisdom from those much wiser than me✨.
If you✨ are struggling with this, please know you✨ are not alone. We✨ will never understand why hurt people hurt people. But we can do the hard work to grow ourselves✨. Because healed people do, in fact, heal people.
Don’t you dare let them steal your✨ joy.
Don’t you dare let them steal your✨ light.
Don’t you dare let them steal your✨ peace.
You✨ are in control of that.
Hold tight to what you✨ can control and release your grip on what you✨ can’t control.
Let them go.🫶🏼
