29/07/2026
As my three oldest are teenagers
they will receive their mother's life advice.
What I wrote to my daughters first.
Mummy's 10 Compas points plus a FREE bonus.
My beloved Daughter,
1. Always remember the forgotten Voices.
Being women, children, animals, poor, unfortunate souls.
The ones with no voice, no rights, no nothing.
You are privileged especially as a woman to take an education
many never got the chance to get.
Use it not only for yourself.
Use it to better the world in what ever way you may be able to.
Use your voice!..Do it frequently so.
2. Be Charitable.
You chose what you can give, and how.
No matter how little or how much you have.
If you start when you have nothing,
it is easier to give when you get more.
Let charity be your driving force in life.
Compete with yourself to better what you can give.
You set your own bar in all you do.
Never compete with others.
Never be jealous, as jealousy knows no boundaries nor end.
Jealousy is designed to eat you up.
Be inspired if you must.
Take notes, listen, adapt their skills and advice to yourself.
Learn and grow daily instead of diminish.
3. Be kind to All.
Big and especially small.
From a King to a Snail. .. Especially to the Snail.
4. Reach for the Stars.
Follow your dreams and passions.
Work hard!
Never be stuck in a bad job.
No boss is worth that.
Do not waste your life in a bad situation
where you are not respected
nor used to your full capacity.
5. Never roll in the mud with pigs!
*unless they are real animals...
When people challenge you to fight dirty,
and they will,
you will maintain your dignity and self respect.
You fight clean and / or walk away
no matter how provoked or humiliated you have been.
You may lose battles, but never the war that way.
True friends will know your pain and suffering
so keep your head up.
Bullies want you to show them your pain,
they want you to cry and break down.
Cry at home, cry with friends,
but try never to let a bully get the pleasure of seing it.
If it is possible.
It has not always been so for me, but at least try.
Do not lower it to the level of being undignified.
The bullies think in ways we cannot match, luckily.
Their evil and ignorance is so deep and profound
that our words cannot reach them.
They are not worth spending energy on.
They are not worth your breath!
Pity the bullies.
Pity them for living such a limited life
that they cannot see beauty nor love.
Pity them but do not engage yourself with them.
..Unless they bully others weaker than you.
Then you stand up like you were raised and face the battle
like the true ViQueen I raised you to be.
Never be a coward, as per rule 1!
Nb. You shall never gossip!
Gossip has been the root of much evil through history.
Stay clean!
Rather be alone than gossip!
6. Be humble and grateful.
Yet, do not eliminate nor diminish yourself either.
You deserve a career, you deserve to be respected.
You are worthy of all good coming your way.
Just remember to pinch your arm
when your are experiencing something incredible.
Also recall the small moments.
That way combined your life becomes rich beyond comparison.
Show gratitude as well.
7. Be true to yourself.
Do not fake it till you make it.
Find the true "you" deep inside and listen to that voice.
The Oracle of Delphi stated when asked what was the most important thing in life.
"Know Thyself".
It was as true then as it is now.
8. You are someone / You are loved,
but none of us are worth more than others.
Some think so.
They are wrong.
9. Give compliments.
Honest ones.
Freely.
To strangers too.
Cash register ladies, bus drivers, a shop keeper....
You never know what battles another person is going through.
Never asume that you know.
A kind, well meaning compliment may actually save another person's day.
Their smile is the biggest reward in life.
All the moments where you can positively impact another person's life will radiate back on you.
The universe will keep a secret score.
Yet never do so yourself.
Give freely and from a pure heart.
Advice, time, a helping hand, a listening ear, a tissue, a hug....
True friends will weather storms from you.
The ones that left were takers not givers.
Even though it is hard to know they were not there for you in your hour of need
and you want closure in knowing why they left.
Let them go.
They were never worthy of your friendship.
However, there will be angels flying in that you did not notice before that will take that spot.
Keep the givers close.
Let the takers leave you sphere.
Remember:
To be there for another person radiating in sunshine is the easiest.
To be there through their darkest hour takes honour and devotion.
You be that friend and the others will follow.
Never ever beg a person you thought was a friend to return.
They will let you down again, thus is their nature.
Keep the givers close to heart and mind.
There is no such excuse as "I do not have the time"!
We all have the same amount of time to give to others.
10. Always come Home.
At the end of the day no matter what you did,
no matter what happened to you,
no matter what mess you may have gotten yourself into..and we all mess up from time to time.
Come home.
You are loved.
Profoundly and always.
No matter where you may be.
You are never alone.
Touch your heart and your mother will be there.
Say "I am never alone!"
Repeat that if and when needed!
..You are lucky that you have siblings to support you too.
Rule 11. Bonus. Compounded Growth
was according to Einstein the strongest force on the planet.
I learned that late, you learn young.
Use it.
Save and invest to better the lives of others,
yourself and future generations of ours.
My 3 life mottos
1. A life lived fully is a life worth living.
2. One thing does not exclude the other.
3. Life is too short to be boring!
Yours truly and forever with unconditional love for you.
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Mor
Ps. Read this document till you know it by heart.
Live by the rules, and with the ups and downs
that life is sure to offer you, you will persevere!
Pps. If all other things fail: Breathe.
Breathe in and out till you feel grounded again.
