17/02/2025
There’s a fine line between being appreciated for your goodness and being genuinely loved for who you are—the good, the bad, and everything in between.
I always say this loud and clear: many African men don’t truly love their wives; they love the idea of a woman’s agreeable nature and how well she fits into their definition of a “good wife.” Most men marry women not because of genuine love, but because she fits the image of someone who will take care of the home, be agreeable, and fulfill societal expectations. They choose a woman based on convenience, not emotional connection. Love is often missing because they were never taught what it truly means. This is why issues like cheating, abuse, and controlling behaviors are so common—and worse, they feel entitled to them without remorse.
Real love isn’t about possession or convenience. When you genuinely love someone, you don’t just enjoy their presence; you respect, value, and honor their desires, wishes, and individuality. True love goes beyond what a person does for you—it embraces who they are entirely.
So, take a moment to reflect: Are you truly loved for who you are, or simply wanted because you’re a good person who makes someone feel comfortable?
