08/21/2026
Today is the 11th anniversary of the worst day of mine and my family’s life! 💔
As I sit here at Hayden’s grave reflecting, even though my hearts breaks, i have so many happy and funny memories of my boy!
“My boy”, huh, he would be 29 this upcoming October, but he is a boy forever in my heart and memories.
Frozen in time. Never to grow up. Never to marry. Never to have children. But… Praise be to God, Hayden has Eternity in Heaven with Jesus and we will be reunited one day. 🙌🙏🏻
The following week we laid Hayden’s body to rest exactly where I am sitting now.
That day was mostly a blur, but at his grave I will never forget the gentle and kind elderly gentleman from the funeral home, who, without words, escorted me to the pile of dirt next to Hayden’s open grave with his casket just 6 feet below.
I have never seen or experienced this process before, but as he looked at me, eye to eye, man to man, and then firmly put the shovel in my hand, at that moment I knew that as Hayden’s father, as the head of our family, and as a man it was my right, my honor and my responsibility to scoop that first shovel of dirt and unload it into my son Hayden’s grave.
As I watched and heard the dirt spill onto Hayden’s casket, I fully realized the finality of death - my son’s death! 😥💔
As we said, “Goodbye” to Hayden, Jesus said, “Hello, Hayden, Welcome home my good and faithful servant.”
We chose Psalm 116:15 to put on his gravestone, which reads, “Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints.”
Death for a believer is a Heavenly homecoming and that is why we chose that verse.
Though my heart aches continually, I am forever grateful to God for the nearly 18 years He gave us with Hayden. 🙏🏻🙌❤️
God blessed me with 3 other amazing children, Hope Holmes, Carter Smith and Vadym Hrynchuk and I know without a doubt that Hayden would be beaming with pride for each of them.
Thank you all for your love, prayers and words of encouragement towards me and my family. 🙏🏻
Go hug your kiddos and loved ones and tell them how much you love them. ❤️