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03/08/2026

Extreme Competitiveness: My Mask I Work for Inadequacy
https://open.substack.com/pub/samlouietherapy/p/extreme-competitiveness?r=697koy&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

02/26/2026

Understanding Sexual Behavior Patterns: A Non-Shaming Workbook

If you’ve ever felt stuck in s*xual behaviors that don’t match your values, you’re not alone — and you’re not broken. This workbook helps you understand why these patterns happen without shame, blame, or harsh self-criticism.

Rather than relying on willpower, you’ll learn how these behaviors often develop as ways to cope with stress, loneliness, anxiety, or emotional pain — and how to build healthier, safer ways to meet those needs.

This is about moving from: Shame → Understanding → Real Change

What You’ll Learn
✔ Why these patterns develop
✔ Your personal triggers and emotional cycles
✔ The different “parts” of you that try to protect you
✔ How to slow down urges instead of fighting them
✔ How to replace self-criticism with self-compassion

What’s Inside
• Reflection exercises
• Trigger mapping tool
• Guided personal history process
• Common thinking patterns that keep cycles going
• Self-compassion and affirmation practices
• A step-by-step framework for change

You can use this on your own or alongside therapy or recovery work.
Format
📄 47-page guided PDF workbook
⚡ Instant download
🖨 Printable and fillable

If you’re ready to understand your patterns with compassion — and take practical steps toward change — this workbook is for you.

https://coachsamlouie.gumroad.com/l/fdykm

Understanding Sexual Behavior PatternsA Non-Shaming, Compassion-Focused Workbookby Sam Louie, MA, LMHC, CSATIf you feel stuck in s*xual behaviors that don’t align with your values, this workbook helps you understand why—without shame or self-criticism.Instead of focusing on willpower, this guide...

02/25/2026

Understanding your Alarms: A Compassionate Urge Map for Recovery

If you’ve ever thought, “Why did that urge come out of nowhere?” — this worksheet is for you.

Understanding Your Alarms helps you recognize the early warning signs that show up before an urge to use or return to an old pattern.

Instead of focusing on guilt or failure, this tool helps you see urges as signals from your body, emotions, and environment — signs that something needs care and attention.

With simple checklists and reflection prompts, you’ll learn to:

-Spot your personal patterns and high-risk moments
-Recognize when you’re tired, stressed, lonely, or overwhelmed
-Notice the thoughts that make urges stronger
-Identify what you actually need in the moment
-Choose one small action to interrupt the cycle

This is a shame-free, practical worksheet you can use on your own or with a therapist to build awareness, self-compassion, and healthier coping strategies.

Recovery isn’t about being perfect — it’s about noticing earlier and responding differently. Each time you use this map, you strengthen that skill.

Best for: people working on recovery from alcohol, drugs, cannabis, gambling, or other compulsive behaviors.

Format: Printable worksheet you can reuse anytime.

https://coachsamlouie.gumroad.com/l/sqrxq
Now available for clinicians and recovery programs.

Understanding Your AlarmsA Compassionate Urge Map for RecoveryIf you’ve ever thought, “Why did that urge come out of nowhere?” — this worksheet is for you.Understanding Your Alarms helps you recognize the early warning signs that show up before an urge to use or return to an old pattern. Ins...

02/24/2026

I’ve created a new clinical worksheet for working with porn/s*x addiction.

Understanding Your Alarms: A Compassionate Urge Map

This trauma-informed tool helps clients move away from shame-based “relapse thinking” and instead identify the early body, emotional, relational, and environmental warning signs that precede acting out.

It walks clients through:
✔ recognizing alarm patterns (not just isolated triggers)
✔ identifying the thoughts and transitions that escalate urges
✔ connecting urges to unmet needs
✔ choosing one simple in-the-moment interruption strategy

https://coachsamlouie.gumroad.com/l/xgjgi?_gl=1*gmt1r6*_ga*Njc4MjgwOTk0LjE3Njk1NzAzODU.*_ga_6LJN6D94N6*czE3NzE5NzI2NzQkbzckZzEkdDE3NzE5NzM3NjAkajYwJGwwJGgw

01/28/2026

We can learn a lot about shame-reduction especially for addicts in recovery from the Japanese art of Kintsugi.

The Japanese art of fixing broken pottery can be a way to view addiction recovery.

12/28/2025

To gain a deeper understanding of Asian shame, I have created this concise e-book, which includes personal anecdotes from my own journey. It's complete with some reflection exercises that can add to your growth and learning.

A short but concise e-book to help people understand Asian shame. Journaling and reflection exercises are offered to give readers an opportunity to explore their own cultural and personal life history. Chapters include helping readers understand the following:Chapter 1: Early Experiences of ShameCha...

10/16/2025

How I found God through P**n

A Personal Perspective: From childhood adversity, to s*xual compulsion, to spirituality.

09/16/2025

Cut out credit cards, share more meals, stop chasing ego goals, and start feeding your soul. This is the essence of "clean, conscious living".

A Personal Perspective: Some call it minimalistic living. Others call it clean, conscious living. "Less is more" is the goal.

09/08/2025

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/minority-report/202509/learning-to-love-when-recovering-from-compulsive-s*xual-behaviors

A Personal Perspective: It's important to learn how to truly love. For men, it's even harder since our culture puts so much emphasis on romance and s*x as the standard for love.

08/11/2025

The Asian-American immigrant dream is to come to the United States, get a good education, make their family and culture proud, and set a good example for others to follow. But what if one strays significantly from that and shames and dishonors them through divorce, addiction, and mediocrity?

Personal Perspective: The American dream, especially among Asians, is to make your family and heritage proud. Nothing could be further from this than the dysfunction I endured.

08/07/2025

We can feel inadequate in numerous ways. Growing up poor was another aspect of life to navigate as an immigrant family in the U.S.

Personal Perspective: Growing up in a poor, uneducated immigrant Asian family added to the level of shame for me, especially when the American ideal is being smart and rich.