10/16/2025
✨ October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month ✨
This month hits close to home for me.
For a long time, I believed abuse had to leave bruises. I thought, “There’s no way I could be in an abusive relationship.” But when my therapist looked at me and said, “You are in an abusive relationship,” I was stunned.
It took time for me to understand that abuse isn’t always physical. I was in a controlling, emotionally abusive relationship; a relationship where my sense of self was slowly stripped away, where my life was threatened, and where emotional pain became normal. When I discovered the emotional abuse wheel and saw the cycle of control, manipulation, and fear, I realized I was living every piece of it.
But I became brave enough to say: No more.
I left.
And over the past four years, I’ve been rebuilding:
💜 Rebuilding my life
💜 Reclaiming my peace
💜 Rediscovering self-love
💜 Creating a safe home for myself and my kids
Though my abuser still finds ways to try and hurt me, through emails and fake accounts, I continue to protect my peace. Still, in those moments, I sometimes feel like that helpless girl again. But I remind myself: I am no longer her. I am brave, I am healing, and I am free.
To anyone out there wondering if what you’re experiencing is abuse: You are not alone.
Abuse exists on a spectrum. It’s not always obvious. It can be psychological, emotional, verbal, financial, or digital. It’s not your fault.
It never was.
If you’re in it right now, I see you. And I want you to know:
💜 You are not crazy.
💜 You are not weak.
💜 You are not to blame.
Be brave. Seek help. Choose yourself.
You deserve safety. You deserve peace. You deserve love.
And I promise you—life can become as beautiful as you want it to be. 💫
