08/18/2024
1 Little Thing to Make the World a Better Place
One of the things I miss the most about teaching martial arts everyday is the mat chats with the kids.
One of the most important topics we’d discuss is bullying.
Mostly, I’d just ask questions and let them talk about their experiences and feelings.
Turns out, kids know quite a bit about the subject and when they talk openly, they know the difference between right and wrong.
What else did I learn?
1. Bullying commonly consists of name calling, belittling, ridiculing or making fun of someone, excluding someone or other mean spirited treatment.
2. A bully needs a target to pick on and they need others who will support them by laughing at their “jokes” and joining in.
3. Bullying is actually a behavior. There is really no such thing as a “bully” only people who commonly practice this behavior.
4. People who do often practice these behaviors do it for attention, acceptance, to gain social standing or for influence or power.
5. Most of us are easily tempted to join in to laugh at the “jokes”, call names and support a bully for these same reasons.
6. Needing attention, acceptance, social standing or power at someone else’s expense really demonstrates an insecure person and a lack of caring about others.
7. No one wants to think of themselves as a bully, even if they commonly exhibit these behavior towards others.
Social media has created an online environment where bullying behavior is immediately rewarded with attention and likes.
It makes it easy for weak people to bring out the worst in us posing as “leaders” to build support at the expense of others.
Here are two simple practices that can make our world a better place, both online and off.
Before you post or reply to a post, ask yourself these two questions:
1. Is this post or reply name calling, belittling or ridiculing another person or group of people? (If so, just delete it)
2. Is the content I’m reading / following practicing name calling, belittling or ridiculing another person or group of people?
(If so, look for better content that brings people together and builds people up rather than ridiculing and dividing)
It starts with each or us striving to be better.
That's what martial arts are all about.