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True strength isn’t measured by how many people you can overpower, but by how many lives you can uplift. 💪✨ In a world that can sometimes feel heavy, the strongest among us are those who choose to be a source of support and compassion. Let’s strive to lift each other up—because together, we rise. 🌟

11/25/2024

Effective spiritual practices are good therapy.


Perhaps the least obvious thing about the past is that it is over. It's done, finished, completed, and cannot be changed. Nothing in the past can be undone or changed. No one can be resurrected, punished or consoled. The door is closed and it will not be opened by any entreaty.



Once something has happened to a person, it can't be changed, only re-evaluated. What carries forward is the stuff connected with past events: scars, pains, emotions, losses, dreams, memories, grief, resentment, bad intentions, fixed attention, etc. This painful baggage from the past can keep a person from acquiring a source viewpoint and deliberately creating the future. The therapist's job, ideally, is to help the person resolve this baggage without adding to it.



One of the biggest fallacies of pop psychologists is that people will experience some sort of closure on their past upsets by striking back, or witnessing justice, or punishing someone else. It's not true. Anybody (including whole nations) that buys into the idea that a little righteous vengeance will make them feel better gets worse.

Shame, blame, and punishment are no part of effective therapy.

Three things that do help people recover are: confession, forgiveness and mourning.

There are hundreds of methodologies to implement these three processes without causing self-denigration. Picking the right one for the person who needs help is the art of therapy.
Harry Palmer
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