05/08/2026
Yes! "Ban mice in pockets!" Own your feelings. Own your destiny.
Episode 8 of The Curiosity Shop drops today! Adam Grant and I unpack two of the most unproductive and undermining communication moves in workplaces and families:
1. The “invisible army” of we all think… and,
2. The bu****it disclaimers that start with “I don’t mean to be rude, but…”.
I wrote about these communication hedges in “Strong Ground” and why they’re absolute trust-crushers at home and work. Rumbling on these hedges with Adam was too fun to call “work.”
If you’re a leader who is experiencing the invisible army approach from your team, consider getting curious about why they feel that they need the protection. If you’re a leader using the invisible army with your direct reports, it’s time for some coaching.
You can download the new episode wherever you listen to your podcasts! We'd love to know what you think! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hVjPKKcJRH0