05/16/2026
In the past, it's NOT that baby blues didn't exist, Mom, but...
1. It wasn't given a name → There was no term for "baby blues," so it was considered "just normal fatigue after giving birth."
2. It wasn't talked about → Talking about sadness after having a baby was taboo, for fear of being called "ungrateful."
3. The symptoms were considered normal → Constant crying was called "baby stuff," and irritability was called "lack of rest."
So, baby blues *has existed since our ancestors*, but it's just "visible" now.
5 Reasons Why It Seemed "Never Existed" in the Past:*
1. The Social System Was Very Different
*In the Past:*
- Home births were attended by many people: midwives, mothers, in-laws, and neighbors all helped for 40 days.
- Postpartum mothers' only job was breastfeeding and sleeping. Cooking, washing, and housework are handled by the whole village.
- A fussy baby is immediately handed over to grandma/aunt. Mom can sleep.
- A real "village" exists → The mental burden is shared.
Now...
- Giving birth in the hospital, coming home on the second day and being told to be independent.
- Husband works, Mom stays home alone with the baby, cleaning the house, and cooking.
- In-laws are far away, neighbors don't even know each other.
- *The burden is 100% on Mom's shoulders* → Yes, it's stressful.
2. Expectations of Mothers in the Past Were More Realistic
In the past, the standard for a "great mother" was that her child was alive and not hungry. That's it.
- Baby crying = normal, it's just a baby.
- Messy house = understandable after giving birth.
- Disheveled mother smells of breast milk = all mothers do that.
Now:
- IG is full of glowing mothers, slim 2 weeks after giving birth.
- Baby must gain weight according to the curve, sleep soundly, and not be dramatic.
- House must be shiny, cooking must be nutritious, husband must be served.
- *The standard is high* → Mothers constantly feel like failures.
3. Hormones Remain the Same, But the Stigma is Different*
80% of mothers experience baby blues because estrogen and progesterone levels plummet after giving birth, lack of sleep, and fatigue. This is biological, it's been like this since the Stone Age, but it's considered postpartum fatigue.
So, in conclusion, Mom...
Baby blues is *not a new disease*. It's been around forever. Just like in the past:
1. *Lots of social support* → Shared burden
2. *No social media* → No self-comparison
3. *Considered normal* → Allowed to be sad, no judgment
4. *No medical records* → So it's like "it doesn't exist"
*It's more visible now* because we're alone, have high standards, and understand mental health.
Stay strong, Mom, don't worry, this phase will end, just enjoy the process, stay strong 🥰🥰