02/19/2026
we all grow and as we grow we learn skills. these skills lead us to become who we are. everything we do everything so learned skill with the exception of breathing. even how we act, is a learned skill.
no one is born a criminal. no one is born a doctor. no one is born a president. no one is born a nurse. the path we take or the path that is provided us leads us to where we are. charisma is a learned ability and skill. parenting is a responsibility to lead offspring to become better than who they were. it doesn't always work out that way. usually because of the friends or influences in their environment takes them down a separate path. this is why parenting and choosing their offsprings friends where they School is highly important. where they grow up makes or breaks a child that becomes an adult. hang out with the wrong crowd become a criminal. hang out with the right crowd because successful. hang out with people that are just relaxed become relaxed. we are all a product of our environment be it parents friends neighbors teachers etc. one of the biggest problems in life is not seeing the path you are going down or taking. many don't see it until it's too late, including the parents.
im so lucky to have met my wife when I did. if I met her earlier she would have never put up with me. I was too much of a wild man. it's not that she tamed me, it's more what do I got to do to stay with her to be with her. life takes very many twists and turns. sometimes you just know when it's right. they say no one is perfect. however sometimes somebody's perfect for you as Shari is for me.
at some point you choose your own path whichever direction you want to go. everyday you are offered choices. take a moment to choose wisely but don't take too long. life is short. try to treat everyone with common decent respect as they are trying to get through life too. everyone has their own set of challenges. more than you'll ever know. do not blame others for the situation you are in as you have made a choice to be near those others. take the time to do the best you can so that you're offspring can be the best that they can. the worst thing you can do is be lazy. we were designed to work hard and to be everything we can be. the problem is generation to generation has gotten lazier and lazier. you can't blame the generation gap. we can only blame ourselves. blame is not a virtue. the excuses are worthless. get up and do your best every day. some people believe Sunday is the day of rest and that may be so for them it doesn't have to be for everybody. while some people take the day to recharge your batteries, follow their faith, the other chores, rest and relax, others will push harder. they call it the human race. and it is quite competitive. well we are social beings it is in our nature to be competitive and social.
we all wonder what happened to the people we met years ago, everybody does. we all have fleeting thoughts about our past some good some bad often in wonder. it's normal.
in relationships people come people go. some relationships end easily, and some end very harsh. picture a divorce. the reason divorce is so harshlyn is you put a lot of stock into that relationship and it's frustrating to know that the relationship failed. rest assured you'll choose a New path one that could be far better than the path you were on. many people are on their second third marriage. somehow they learn to do it better. it is a relationship it is socializing it is work it is the learning skills and ability that come along in life.
you can leave something behind before you go to make it easier on the ones you love. it could be money, it could be a house, a home, assets, knowledge, skills and abilities that you took the time to teach others, or some other legacy.
enjoy your life, as I know I am.
