08/20/2026
Bridges of Light: Someone at the Gate
I just flew home from a conference in San Antonio. As I sat on the plane, I found myself remembering a time when air travel was actually glamorous. The seats were spacious. The pace was unrushed. They served full meals on flights, even relatively short ones. Travel was a special occasion, and we dressed accordingly. No sweatpants. No pajamas. We were decked out in our Sunday best, because getting on an airplane was something of an event.
I don't remember security lines in those earliest days. There certainly weren't metal detectors and X-ray machines. You walked through the airport, got on the plane, and went somewhere. And perhaps most remarkably, the people who loved you could walk all the way to the gate with you. They could see you off, and they could be standing there waiting when you came home.
I remember when I was working at UCLA and doing some consulting on the side. Pittsburgh was a hub then, and I frequently connected through here on my way somewhere else. I can't tell you how many times my dad came to the airport just to spend a precious hour with me during a layover. I wasn't even coming home. He knew I was passing through, and that was reason enough to come.
And when I actually was coming home, there was almost always someone waiting.
I can still see them gathered at the gate as I came off the plane, waiting to embrace me and welcome me home. It didn't seem to matter whether I had been gone for months or days. Someone was there. Sometimes several someones. Parents. Siblings. Occasionally grandparents. People who loved me enough to come to the airport simply because I was returning.
I miss those days. They seem simpler somehow. Less hurried. And yes, perhaps through the rose-colored glasses of memory, safer. But sitting on that airplane coming home from San Antonio, I realized there is something else about those memories that has stayed with me. For as long as I can remember, I have imagined that dying might be something like that. Not the dying part itself. The arriving.
I imagine making a journey I have never made before and emerging from the other side, almost like walking up that old airport gangway. And there, gathered at the gate, are the people I have loved who made the journey before me. Waiting. My grandparents. Friends I have lost along the way. People whose absence has left holes in my life that never completely closed. And my dad. Maybe he will be there just as he was all those years ago when he drove to the Pittsburgh airport simply because his son was passing through. Except this time I won't be passing through.
I will be coming home.
And they won't be the only ones waiting. Tobi, Sookie, Thunder, Zeke, Boo, Jazz, Garth Brooks, Billybob, and Binx will be there too. Every dog and cat who shared a piece of my life and then, much too soon, went on ahead of me. I rather like imagining that part. Because if heaven is home, how could they possibly not be there?
I don't pretend to know what happens when this life ends. Faith gives us language and traditions give us images, but none of us has made that journey and returned with photographs. So I am content to hold onto this one. Perhaps death is not an empty terminal at all. Perhaps somewhere beyond everything we can see and understand, there is a gate. And maybe the people we have loved are already gathered there. Maybe they have been watching the arrivals board, waiting for our flight to come in. And perhaps, somewhere among them, there are tails wagging too.
And when our journey is finally over, we will emerge from the gangway and discover that we were never arriving somewhere strange. We were simply coming home. And everyone we loved was waiting at the gate.
And so it is.
P.S. When I’m not writing Bridges, I’m helping people buy and sell homes. If you or someone you know is thinking about making a move, please drop me a line at [email protected]. I’d love to start a conversation.