Grant Huhn - Blum Real Estate

10/15/2024

John Gruber, yesterday:

"The less you know about this talk, the more you’ll enjoy watching it unfold. Just remarkably good. Trust me, watch it now, before anything about it is spoiled for you."

He was referencing this video. You'll be glad you watched it.

“Don’t waste this. Keep everyone guessing. Make me proud.” When Panic co-founder Cabel Sasser spoke at our second festival in 2013, the Mac software company ...

10/11/2024

Do you (or anyone you know) need a 4' piece of Sonotube? It could also be used as two 2' sections. I don't have time to explain how. Also: it's free.

09/29/2024

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I am hosting an Open House at 1022 Pali Dr NW tomorrow (Sun) from noon - 3:pm. Come by and check it out. Or let someone know about it. (New improved price.)

Buckle up. This home is amazing. Newer roof, furnace, windows, fireplaces, & plumbing. Large utility room w/ door to backyard. Carport off Pali Dr. Double deep garage off View Dr. Access Glen Creek from Pali, View, or Patterson. Primary and two bedrooms on main floor. Guest room/office downstairs w/...

09/11/2024

I'll thank you each for the birthday wishes tomorrow. For now...

"55 Lessons From 55 Years"
Part 7 of 7. Lessons 46 - 55

46. Having children is the most fun, rewarding, life-giving, life-changing, motivating, inspiring, expanding thing I have ever done. By far.

47. Having children squeezes your heart at times. The heartache can be intense. Loving is dangerous. The more you love, the more you risk.

48. Love is worth the risk. Give your heart away. Even if it hurts later.

49. Forgiving yourself for your mistakes is necessary, liberating, and strangely difficult.

50. Owning real estate is the most common, easiest way that people build, and keep, wealth.

51. Always keep (a lot of) napkins in the glovebox of your car.

52. Tribalism is the most powerful and destructive force on earth. It is, naturally, rooted in connection. People will do or believe anything, no matter how absurd or awful, to stay connected to their “tribe”.

53. The things you believe are as likely to be incorrect as they are to be correct. Therefore being open to changing your beliefs is vitally important.

54. Leadership is one of the greatest needs on the planet. Related: Politics is not leadership. Politics is less-than-useless. Politics is tribalism — fear and hate and repetition. “My opponent is bad. My opponent… My opponent… Those people are out to get you. Those people… Those people….” Leadership is caring for, connecting, and inspiring people. “I believe you can do even more and affect even more good. Let’s do that together.”

55. Conditioning is what shaped all of us. And we aren’t aware that we were conditioned. And the people doing it probably weren’t aware they were conditioning us.

Please make a list like this. I would love to get to know you better and glean wisdom from your life.

Here's the full list:

In honor of my 55th birthday, and inspired by Kevin Kelly. And in order of importance.

09/09/2024

"55 Lessons From 55 Years"
Part 6 of 7. Lessons 38 - 45

38. Your physical body and your nervous system are the wisest and most honest things you will ever encounter. Learning to listen to them makes life easy. Learning to listen to them is difficult if you have been disconnected from them.

39. Grief is necessary. You’re gonna have to cry. And your tears will likely be for your younger self. Nothing will be as freeing and healing as doing that.

40. Life can be hard. See #1–39.

41. Depression is rough. And a lot of people struggle with depression.

42. Loneliness is rough. And a lot of people struggle with loneliness.

43. The definition of loneliness is: Not having anyone to share your burden with. This means both: 1) not having anyone you feel safe enough with to tell your burden to, and 2) not having anyone who will help carry the burden.

44. That feeling at the end of a day when you have not lived your life or been true to yourself — it feels like loneliness. And it probably is a form of loneliness. See #1.

45. Gratitude and positivity work. Selfishness and negativity don’t work. A surprising number of people, because of how they were raised, believe that negativity is “realistic” or that “I’m just trying to help”. However, negativity is neither realistic nor helpful.

Here is the full list:

In honor of my 55th birthday, and inspired by Kevin Kelly. And in order of importance.

09/09/2024

"55 Lessons From 55 Years"
Part 5 of 7. Lessons 30 - 37

30. The secret to marriage is being open to personal growth. This works even if only one person is open to growth, learning, and changing. It works faster and easier if both are. Working on yourself is different than working on the relationship. Related: Not all marriages last. That’s ok.

31. You are better, and are doing better, than you think.

32. You are probably addicted to something. To avoid feeling or facing inner pain you use one or more of these: Alcohol, drugs, love, s*x, p**n, working, romance novels, proving yourself, shopping, food, gambling, fame, violence, daydreaming, social media, video games, etc. You are addicted because of trauma. Specifically, you did not receive enough healthy connection early in life, or something damaged connection early in life. That’s ok. Welcome to the club. Let’s get to healing (accepting) ourselves.

33. You are loved. This is a tricky one because it is a bit mystic or nebulous. Many people don’t feel loved, and saying that an invisible entity somewhere on another plane loves you does not help a person feel loved. But it’s still true. It doesn’t matter what you call it: God, the Buddha nature, The Tao, the universe, whatever. Love surrounds us. To see and feel it we simply need to recognize our negative thinking patterns. Better yet: help someone else see and feel love.

34. For the first 50 years of my life I did not know how to rest. I am just now learning how to rest. And it is taking a long time. It is like a foreign language to me.

35. For the first 50 years of my life I was nearly completely disconnected from my physical body. I lived almost entirely in my head. I resented my body — the constant pain and problems. I am just now learning how to be connected to my physical body. It is taking time.

36. For the first 50 years of my life I was nearly completely disconnected from reality. I lived in a rich, deep, satisfying fantasy world. I was somewhere else almost every moment. When you practice something for 50 years you get good at it. No one around me knew I was not there.

37. I cannot imagine anything more difficult than prolonged dissociation. That is probably how each of us feel about the burdens we bear.

Here is the full list:

In honor of my 55th birthday, and inspired by Kevin Kelly. And in order of importance.

09/08/2024

Open House today at this amazing west Salem home from noon to 3:00pm!

https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/1022-Pali-Dr-NW-Salem-OR-97304/48511069_zpid/

This 2606 square feet Single Family home has 4 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms. It is located at 1022 Pali Dr NW, Salem, OR.

09/07/2024

"55 Lessons From 55 Years"
Part 4 of 7. Lessons 22-29.

22. Connection is our greatest need. In fact, all the other needs (love, safety, autonomy, pleasure, self-actualization, etc) point to connection or are dependent on connection. Connection is the remedy for trauma.

23. Connection is determined by the safety of a relationship. And the safety of a relationship is determined by how much judgment is in the relationship. The more judgment (criticism, contempt, eye-rolling, sighing, mocking, pointing out mistakes) in a relationship the less safe the relationship and the less connection is possible and the more the other person will naturally seek connection elsewhere. Or, if they are a child, the more they will hate themselves (and not even know it).

24. People judge others because they judge themselves. People judge others when they have been (inadvertently) taught to judge themselves.

25. The four biggest mistakes humans have made are, in order:
a. The ways we typically raise boys.
b. Raising children in judgment.
c. Our obsession with punishment.
d. Insisting on conformity.
These four mistakes are the root of all the problems you and I face. Think of anything that causes you or anyone else pain. We can easily trace it back to one or more of those four things. Avoiding those mistakes is easy and enjoyable.

26. Being present is the second most impactful thing you can do (after #1). Simply practice being present in this moment.

27. There is love and beauty and magic everywhere. Not only when we really strain to look for it. Not only if we have a “pollyanna” view of the world. Not only if we put on “rose-colored glasses”. Love, beauty, and magic are everywhere. Even in you. The only reason we don’t see them is because of negative thinking patterns that were inadvertently conditioned into us in childhood.

28. The four biggest themes of literature are:
a. What will you do when external forces pressure you to conform? Every work that has endured has had this question at its heart. Every time an author has sat down to write something true and meaningful, they have started or ended with that question. It is the question you and I face every day.
b. What will you do with Death?
c. There are always father issues.
d. Art celebrates the passionate woman. The world, however, is often cruel to passionate women.

29. Reading is the surest path to wisdom. There is simply not enough time for you to accumulate wisdom via experience. Even if you lived a full life you would not have all the wisdom you need by age 80. More importantly and urgently, there is not enough time to acquire via experience the wisdom you need for today.

Here is the full list:

In honor of my 55th birthday, and inspired by Kevin Kelly. And in order of importance.

09/06/2024

"55 Lessons From 55 Years"
Part 3. Lessons 15-21.

15. It’s all trauma. All the behaviors we label (addiction, ADHD, anger, anxiety, bi-polar, chronic pain, chronic illness, depression, dissociation, eating disorders, hyper-vigilence, insomnia, oppositional defiance, perfectionism, feelings of worthlessness, etc) are simply symptoms of trauma.
16. It all comes back to parenting. “I’m still angry at my parents for what their parents did to them.” (Noah Kahan)
17. Parents need compassion. This means two things: 1) Parents need to show compassion to themselves. 2) We need to show compassion to other parents. This does not mean parents should demand compassion or forgiveness from their children. That is the opposite direction of the destination.
18. The secret to parenting is to be open to personal growth. The best thing, by far, a parent can do for their child is for the parent to work on themselves. “The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.” (Carl Jung). “Unlived life” = The unacknowledged unmet meets of the parent, their unaddressed wounds and fears, and their unfulfilled dreams.
19. The second best thing a parent can do is apologize when you have, intentionally or unintentionally, hurt your child. You don’t need to apologize for being human or having flaws. But you do need to apologize when you hurt your child.
20. You are probably doing better than your parents did. There’s a good chance you are doing significantly better than your parents did. Way to go.
21. There might not be such a thing as “tough love”. There is compassion, tenderness, grace, comfort, encouragement, connection, trying to see the other person — in short, all of the things we want and need for ourselves. And there is judgment, harshness, cruelty, distance, punishment, criticism, dominance — in short, none of the things we want and need for ourselves. When someone succeeds because of “tough love” it is because of the “love” part. It is because another person showed interest or concern. It is because another person reached out, even with a closed fist. It is because connection is so powerful that even the hint of it does wondrous things. One reason some people believe in tough love is because some cultures have an unhealthy fixation on toughness and punishment.

Here is the full list:

In honor of my 55th birthday, and inspired by Kevin Kelly. And in order of importance.

09/05/2024

Laurel Construction and Design do amazing work.

09/05/2024

55 Lessons From 55 Years
Part 2. Lessons 8-14

8. We have familiar, repeated stories and thoughts. And we aren’t even aware of that. It took me a couple of years of practice before I could recognize and stop the stories and thoughts. Doing that was one of the most life-changing things I’ve ever done. (Special thanks to Tim Banks and Julia Stenzel.)

9. Compassion is, therefore, the only sane response to everyone we meet.

10.Compassion is also the only useful response. The effect compassion has is near-magical.

11. Compassion requires strength and wisdom. Some people worry that compassion is weak. That is likely because they have seen more people-pleasing than compassion, or they were raised to believe they must act tough to be accepted. Compassion is other-focused. “What is this person’s unmet need? What might be behind their behavior?” People-pleasing is self-focused. “I need this person to like me. I can’t let these people know the real me (because I don’t know the real me).” Compassion requires courage and resilience that are forged in pain. And it requires being present and seeing clearly.

12. Maturity and empathy are parts of the same thing. Like time and space, or matter and energy, or love and action. You cannot have one without the other. Each is the measure, and test, of the other.

13. Toughness and masculinity are useful and fulfilling, but the way we typically raise boys does not lead to toughness or masculinity. In fact, it leads to the opposite. Being quick to get angry or offended is the opposite of toughness. If people need to “tiptoe” around you to avoid upsetting you, you are not tough.

14. Laughing at and teasing your child is the surest way to raise a thin-skinned, defensive, insecure, wounded adult. Avoid laughing at and picking at and teasing your children. Avoid acting like everything they do is wrong. “Nice of you to finally show up.” “Walk much?” “You’re going out in that?” Sometimes people defend such behavior by saying, “It’s good for kids. It toughens them up,” or “I was just joking. Geez.” But they know such things are not true. And we know they defend their behavior only because they were raised in judgment and admitting mistakes is very painful for them.

Here is the full list:

In honor of my 55th birthday, and inspired by Kevin Kelly. And in order of importance.

09/04/2024

In honor of my 55th birthday next week (and inspired by Kevin Kelly) I will share my "55 Lessons I've Learned In 55 Years" over the next week.

1. “Follow your bliss.” (Joseph Campbell). Find the thing that brings you rapture and commit yourself to it and see where it takes you. Doing this will solve most of your problems and will be a gift to the world. The sooner you do it, or help someone else do it, the better.
2. You are not alone. And there is hope.
3. The thing people are looking for, have always been looking for, and always will be looking for is inner peace. All our endeavors, addictions, relationships, wars, religions, anguishes, and strivings are attempts to find inner peace. And we are not even aware of that.
4. Inner peace can only be found by going inward. Who are you? What do you want and need? Where did you unknowingly abandon yourself? What unmet need has absolutely been wreaking havoc throughout your life? (Answer: Acceptance.)
5. Looking inward, examining yourself, is worth it. It makes everything better—your physical health, mental health, relationships, work, etc. The only real work you'll ever do is on yourself.
6. Working on yourself means: Looking for the ways you haven't accepted yourself, and then working on accepting those things about yourself. “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” (Carl Rogers). “We cannot change anything unless we accept it.” (Carl Jung). “When you look inside, you’re gonna like what you see.” (Zig Ziglar)
7. There is pain behind all behavior—pleasant behaviors and unpleasant behaviors. It is pain that forms the people-pleaser. It is pain that forms the narcissist. The man or woman under the bridge, pain brought them there. The man or woman at the highest levels of fame or success, pain brought them there.

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