09/05/2026
The greatest piece of advice I ever received pi**ed me off when I first heard it.
“You are 100% responsible for everything that happens to you.”
About five or six years ago, I was in a pretty dark place.
And I had a long list of people and circumstances I could blame for how I got there.
I had been fired. I thought people had treated me unfairly. I could tell you everything everybody else had done wrong.
Then a mentor told me I was 100% responsible.
That was a hard thing to hear.
But eventually I stopped asking what everybody else had done to me and started asking different questions.
What could I have done differently?
Where did I contribute to this?
What didn’t I see?
What did I need to change so I never ended up there again?
That shift changed my life.
It’s something I try hard to teach my kids now.
You lose a game and the referee made a terrible call?
Maybe he did.
But why was the game close enough for one call to decide it?
What could you have done better?
Because I’ve learned that the moment I make someone or something outside of me responsible for my life, I’ve also given it power over my life.
But if I take responsibility, I can do something.
I can learn. I can change. I can work harder. I can make a different decision.
Taking responsibility doesn’t mean everything that happens is fair.
It means I’m not waiting for the rest of the world to change before I do.
Responsibility isn’t about blame.
It’s about power.