05/15/2025
Trinity Manor is a recovery house, also known as a 3/4 house. This is a place for those taking the step between being institutionalized and stable living on one's own. We prefer to be living with those like us, not only who have a story, but those who understand the process of evolution and integration into the community. As the recovery programs say, our goal is to become "productive members of society." The halfway house was where you learned what that process entails, and this is where you put it into practice.
We can see who is not ready to do so. We give chances to those who seem ready, but during their 30 day probationary period, their ability for consistent change will be re-evaluated. There are house rules and expectations. If they are still learning, we may make some small adjustments if they get directly back on track, but if telling them and teaching them is a pattern, they should find other living arrangements. It is not our job to overwhelm ourselves with trying to save anyone; it is our job to maintain the sanctity of the home.
Common goals are important to being an upstanding member of the community. We know it is severely lacking in many places in the world today, and this is why we stress the importance of it. We must keep spiritual principles at the forefront of our actions, and when we do, common sense follows automatically. In other words, when we choose to love ourselves and our neighbors, the practice of humility, willingness, self-care, and boundaries happens automatically.
We understand that this is a big ask for someone who is only just discovering that there is a path other than being suicidal, self-loathing, people-pleasing, or living for immidiate gratification. Fighting for sobriety means fighting for one's life. We are understanding and compassionate, but sobriety is not frivolous, and the screening process is taken very seriously.
Therefore, for the general safety of the household, there are certain unacceptable behaviors that we must watch for in residents. WE DO NOT WANT:
--Those not in recovery. This is not a low-income apartment. We are women in recovery helping other women in recovery. There is a requirement to attend weekly recovery meetings.
--Those who will fetter away energy, time, money, or house resources. This place is for the individual to meet their needs so they can become self-sufficient, and then help others. If your needs are not met, relapse is right around the corner (right after a variety of triggers).
--People with severe mental, physical, or intellectual disabilities.
--People who are just surviving day by day. The idea is to turn survival mode into thriving and improving overall.
There are many different circumstances for every person in recovery, and we are hoping the best for everyone. We hope you also understand the role of this house in the community as a stepping stone for those who are ready to integrate into a loving community.