19/02/2024
UNDERSTANDING YOUR MAN
Men are something else; sometimes they don't speak, but they want to be heard and understood. They want their women to know that when they don't want to be bothered or disturbed, it doesn't mean they have fallen out of love with her or have found someone else. They just need time to think; in order not to be disturbed or distracted from such a process, they will like to be left alone. Maybe because they are not as multitasked as women are. Talking is not their natural way of solving things; they believe thinking alone is the best way. Sometimes they get trapped in their thinking without results.
Sometimes they need a friend who will listen to them, not for a solution but to know what they have been struggling with, to understand their frustration, and to see the difficulty they are faced with. They do that so you can understand them and also calm them down with your words, touch, comfort, etc.
But the truth is, sometimes men are misunderstood. Instead of his woman listening to his fear, difficulty, struggles, and putting herself in his shoes to understand what is happening to him and calm him down, she rather blows the issue out of proportion. She rather gets into the same mood and tries to make sense out of what he is thinking and link it to something else
When you do that, he doesn't only get lost, but he also distances himself from you and finds it hard to voice out his frustration next time. When you spot your man thinking about something and even asking about it, he prefers to say nothing. And that makes you worry even more.
He opens up to you as a friend, someone who will comfort him. Love for a man is sometimes comfort; it is how you calm us down and drive away his fears. Your comfort to your man, especially in a time of distress, confusion, anger, stress, and frustration, is like sunshine after the rain
In conclusion, "Together with these things, the most important part of your new life is to love each other
