08/06/2026
This week, I received another phone call I’ve received far too many times.
A couple had known for years that they needed to downsize. They talked about it. They meant to do it. But life kept getting in the way.
Then one of them died.
Now the surviving spouse is left to make every decision alone while also grieving.
Downsizing isn’t really about moving.
It’s about giving yourselves the gift of making those decisions together, while you still can.
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This isn’t a scare tactic.
It’s simply one of the hardest patterns I see.
This week’s phone call reminded me of many others over the years. Couples who knew a move was coming. They had conversations. They had good intentions. But there was always another holiday, another appointment, another reason to wait.
Then life changed overnight.
Suddenly, one spouse is grieving while sorting through decades of memories, making financial decisions, managing a move, and trying to honour a lifetime together. Sometimes adult children are able to help. Sometimes they live far away or have families and careers of their own.
None of us knows what tomorrow brings.
But if you’ve already been saying, “We really should start thinking about downsizing,” maybe that’s your sign to begin the conversation.
Not because something terrible is about to happen.
Because making these decisions together is one of the kindest gifts you can give each other.
If someone came to mind while reading this, share it with them. It might be the gentle nudge they need to start planning.